Are You Lonesome Tonight?

by Joan Courtney, C.Ht. Unstuck Living

Elvis Presley had it right. It’s the weekend…again. Do you go home to your place, and sit. And wait for the phone to ring? You are not motivated to do anything. Not to garden. Not to clean up the house. Not even to cook something special. Everyone else seems to be going on a vacation, or getting together for a party. But not you. More and more, you feel like a social hermit. You know life isn’t supposed to be this way. And yet, there you sit.

Loneliness: The Things You May Not Know

For some, this feeling may come from a move to a new location or starting a new job. But for others, loneliness is a way of life, a lack of connection with others. And therein lies the problem. As the cycle continues, you dig the loneliness hole deeper. Feeling left out can keep you from getting a good night’s sleep. And yes, you can feel like a recluse in a group of friends.

Three Tips to Move into a Vibrant Life

Here are three tips if you want out of the loneliness cycle:

Remember: You are not alone. You belong. And it gets better. The “hermiting” cycle can be broken. Slowly make new contacts and go from there. You can move into happiness and contentment a little at a time.

Change the comments you say to yourself. All of us have those little phrases we tell ourselves. And many of us say such nasty things. “You’re a klutz.” “You can’t do anything right.” “You’re an idiot.” We would never say them to anyone else. But we run ourselves down daily. Focus on the positives and watch the transformation.

Realize a sense of purpose. Whether it’s walking your dog or getting that first cup of coffee, find a reason to get up in the morning. You innately have a need to contribute. Discover what works for you and watch the day unfold.

Stuck at the bottom of the Loneliness Pit?

If you are stuck at the bottom of the Loneliness Pit, Unstuck Living can help you manage this destructive feeling in as few as 1-3 sessions 90% of the time. Everything you need to change your life is within you. But sometimes people need a little help to move past overwhelming emotions or hurtful memories. The system I use is called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), and it isn’t therapy. It is about learning to use your mind more effectively, developing positive choices rather than ones not working for you now.

Call today to bust that lonely cycle and get on to a calmer, happier future.

For more information or to make an appointment, call Joan Courtney at (928) 367-8208 or e-mail online at

Bringing over 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP practitioner and a certified hypnotherapist. In a confidential way, she uses that knowledge to help her clients end old patterns and get unstuck. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.