by Joan Courtney
A Big Dose of Reality
It’s nearly July. And I’m halfway through the year. Now, that’s a big dose of reality. When spring cleaning, I came across my new year’s resolutions (or should I call them dreams?). Those good intentions. Some were golden and others buried under papers, must do’s and books. One goal that blared out was to keep in touch with friends. Oh-so-many excuses and not enough follow through. Seems that each time I gain momentum, my mind creates these insurmountable stories, causing me to stop my forward progress to achieve what I consider oh-so-vital to my mental well-being.
Then a light bulb went off. My mind held me back and made me feel stuck. Finding a way to move past my over-thinking process (I don’t have time or the very best one: I’ll do it tomorrow) is a powerful tool to get unstuck. And it doesn’t require a complicated formula for success. Break…old…thought…pattern. Interrupt that negative chatter with what I’d prefer and there I am, unstuck once again.
How to climb out of that rut and create something new? Now that was the challenge. I want to share some tips that helped me get moving.
Ask myself: why do I want this? Sometimes I stay stuck because I get off track with an enormous To Do list. I was bombarded by so many internal messages about what I should be doing that I lost track of this fact: life is not a dress rehearsal. By asking myself what I wanted, I was able to listen to my needs, my personal inner voice.
What’s the story I tell myself about why I can’t move forward? We all live our lives by an ongoing narrative, the story of why things are the way they are. The downside is that this story gets to be automatic. No need to challenge that thought. It’s normal, after all. The good news is that stories are meant to be revised and edited. When I didn’t like what I discovered, I changed it.
It’s just information. What will I do about it? Once I identified my story, it was time to do some fact checking. Was I happy with the result of my tale? Not really. My personal story was made up of many past experiences that worked at the time. Yours too? But life changes. I could pick up the phone, or text or e-mail and make that connection. I edited the script. After all, it’s only a story.
Reboot and get unstuck! Once I started to move again, I never stopped. My story changed; what I said to myself was I could do it. Nothing was impossible, unless I decided to transform the story again. It’s as simple as that.
If you too find yourself stuck, getting mired deeper and deeper in those old stories, Unstuck Living can help you find relief in as quickly as one to threes sessions 90% of the time. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is not therapy. It is an easy and tested method to help people move through old patterns and get unstuck. All you need is to have the tools to tap into that wisdom, those resources already within yourself.
For more information or to make an appointment, call Joan Courtney at (928) 357-8208 or visit www.unstuck-living.com. Bringing more than 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP Practitioner and a certified clinical hypnotherapist. In a confidential way, she uses that knowledge to help her clients become no-limit people. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.