Unstuck Living by Joan Courtney
Thanksgiving anxiety gaining on you? Is your family Thanksgiving celebration like a brief deployment after months and years of gearing up and training? Let’s take a look at some of the emotional thunderclouds on the horizon.
The dissension can begin with, “Let’s have dinner at my place.” The problem comes when there are multiple relatives to visit and places to be, making for a long, exhausting day and tired kids.
There’s the emotional baggage from the past. “My sister was mom’s favorite,” or “The holiday isn’t the same without my dad.” You have the makings for disaster right there.
Next comes the expectation that your holiday will be just like the Norman Rockwell family portrait, complete with a happy family and good conversation. Expectations can destroy a beautiful present moment.
The big discussion ensues as to whether canned cranberry sauce is good enough, or is home made the only way to go. Heated arguments have begun (and been continued) over smaller issues than this.
Once the Big Day arrives, a new set of emotional challenges pop up. And there is a multitude of them.
The Boaster: “I was able to save my company a million dollars this year,” promptly silencing any other exchange of achievements.
The Very Late Guest: Everyone is there, milling around. One couple is conspicuously absent. You peek out the door and find them heatedly arguing in the lower acreage of your property.
The Good-Old-Days Reminisce: Nothing is ever as good, or right, as it was in November 1986.
The Over-sharer: The one who tells you that the doctor doesn’t know what it is, but it itches like crazy and asks if you want to see.
The Emotional Wreck: The family member that can be counted on to go to pieces whenever family gets together.
The iPhone Addict: This malady is not limited to the younger crew. Constant texting and email by various guests and family restrict conversation and sharing.
If you find your Thanksgiving anxiety already rising like a rocket, you may find relief with these few tips.
Agree to leave emotional baggage behind. You weren’t able to resolve this before. Why rehash it now?
Schedule some multi-generational fun in the holiday as a distraction. Before emotions start to flare, ask everyone to share their most memorable Thanksgiving. You’ll be surprised at the memories.
Cellphones in the center of the table. No news is so important that it can’t wait for an hour or so. Even a football game.
Agree that Thanksgiving can be a movable feast. You are not limited to one day to celebrate Thanksgiving. If there are multiple places to visit, make the day or weekend before the holiday as your Thanksgiving Day. You’ll be thanked for it.
Remember that Thanksgiving comes but once a year. This is only one day out of 365. Resolve to enjoy the foibles and bring your good time with you.
If you continue to have sleepless nights and extreme holiday anxiety, Unstuck Living can help you find relief as quickly as one to three sessions, 90% of the time. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is not therapy. It is an easy and tested method to help people move through old patterns and get unstuck. It is about learning to use your mind more effectively and get unstuck. For more information or to make an appointment, call Joan Courtney at (928) 357-8208 or email online at www.unstuck-living.com. Bringing more than 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP Practitioner and a certified clinical hypnotherapist. In a confidential way, she uses that knowledge to help her clients become no-limit people. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.