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Hot Under the Collar Again?

Unstuck Living

by Joan Courtney

Anger and frustration are unforgiving beasts. My latest encounter with these emotions came last weekend when I decided to assemble a shelving unit for the bathroom. When I saw the unit in the store, it was just what I needed. The size was right, the price unbeatable.

The problem began when the salesperson brought out the unit in a box. A thick flat box, complete with instructions and accouterments. Nails, unusual pegs and bolts were neatly packaged inside, ready for my use. After bringing the box home, I let the project sit for a week, for my skills are not particularly strong in this area.

That weekend, I laid all of the pieces on the floor in the living room. As recommended, I read the instructions thoroughly twice. I then began assembly on the shelves. My first attempt created a piece that had a rough surface facing up on one shelf. My frustration level began to rise, as did the temperature in my place.

I pulled the pieces apart, realizing particle board is not particularly well-disposed to this treatment. This attempt, I got both shelves facing up. My anger level had dropped.  Next was to attach the sides of the unit to the shelf. As that challenge unfolded, I chased the pieces from one side to another, hoping to get them set correctly. I finally placed one side flat on the floor, and braced the pieces together. Frustration was beginning to bubble.

I then turned the unit over and was ready to nail on the backing. The instructions specified that the unit be square as I did this. I confidently tapped in all nails. To my dismay, I found I had ¼” gaps on some (but not all) sides. I lifted the unit by the top shelf. After walking 6 feet, I had the top of the unit in my arms and the bottom banging my shins. Hot under the collar had true meaning for me.

Let me share some ways I resolved these feelings:

Step back. I stepped back from the situation and realized 100 years from now (even 10 years from now), it won’t make any difference.

Exercise. My dog, Mac Duff, and I took breaks and walked a lot during this process. Exercise will help both body and mind achieve balance. Perspective is restored.

Look up. As I focused on treetops, the sky, the tops of buildings, I was able to let go of the built up frustration and anger. As I looked up, I visualized a peaceful, harmonious resolution.

Laughter. In the end, I had to laugh at my exaggerated view of what happened. It all worked out.

If you too find yourself stuck, getting mired deeper and deeper in those old ruts, Unstuck Living can help you find relief in as quickly as 1-3 sessions 90% of the time. Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is not therapy. It is an easy and tested method to help people move through old patterns and get unstuck. All you need is to have the tools to tap into that wisdom, those resources already within yourself.

For more information or to make an appointment, call Joan Courtney at (928) 357-8208 or email online at Bringing over 30 years of experience to her practice, Joan is a highly qualified NLP Practitioner and a certified clinical hypnotherapist. In a confidential way, she uses that knowledge to help her clients become no-limit-people. Many have found her friendly ways and precise techniques to be the easiest road toward a better life.